Monthly Archives: June 2009

June 30, 2009

Significant in it’s insignificance

By rhonirenee

May 2, 2008 Jon (accidentally) told me he loved me for the first time. May 2, 2009 he married me (on purpose). 

 June 24 2008 is the first time we met face to face. June 24 2009 he flew back to Indianapolis to pick up everything I’d left in storage.

June 30, 2008 was the day our first (and only) visit ended. June 30, 2009 – there is nothing to report. Today is a day like any other in this life we have settled into together. We will go to work, go home and eat dinner with the family, do laundry and eventually curl up in bed together. That’s a GOOD thing by the way. I can remember the ache of missing him last year.  I was briefly reminded of it last week while he traveled but comparitively, it was muted. Bearable. An temporary emptiness in the house, an unease that was relieved as soon as he walked in the door.  And while it was mildly interesting to re-read entries from this time last year and see again just how much my life has changed, it is much more enjoyable to look ahead.

This week we’re going to celebrate a couple of “first” – our first camping trip together, our first 4th of July together…really our first vacation together.  We’re getting away for more than one night with no goals except to relax and visit with friends. Our kids will be elsewhere, our responsibilities on hold. And while we’ll have free wi-fi at the campground (and I’m quite sure Jon will take at least one laptop), I don’t expect to be online much, if any.

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June 25, 2009

I miss my husband

By rhonirenee

I don’t want to be whiney. I know there are couples who deal with this travel thing week in and week out. Not to mention that while I’m sitting comfortably in our home, getting ready to sleep comfortably in our bed, Jon is sitting in a cheap hotel somewhere in Nebraska. And while I played all day, he drove seemingly endless miles…all to bring MY stuff back to me. Not because he had to or was obligated to but because eventually he wanted me to have my stuff and he’s kinda awesome like that.

Nevertheless.

I was okay today. TheKid and I played. We stayed busy.

Obviously.

We also took food to friends with a new baby, laughed at Jon’s cat being ultra pathetic and went to a women’s group meeting (TheKid got to hang out with a friend).

But now I’m home and it’s dark. It’s almost bedtime. And now the emptiness in the chair behind me seems to echo through the house. He’ll be home tomorrow sometime. I can’t wait.

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June 24, 2009

Here there and everywhere

By rhonirenee
  • I got my blood test results back yesterday. Everything ranged from normal to great!! except for indication of “an acute infection”. Which we knew. Which is why I choke on a huge horse pill of an antibiotic twice a day. Swelling and pain no longer afflict my poor little lymph node and it’s such a relief to do things like hold my arm normally down to my side.
  • My dear dear husband is flying out to Indianapolis in a few hours so tomorrow he can pack the rest of my stuff into a moving van and drive it home to me. The great news is I’ll have the stuff I miss like my books and bows/arrows. And it’ll be a little like Christmas since I’m not sure what all else I stored. (Cross your fingers that my rollerblades are in there…)  The bad news is my husband is driving 2000+ miles in a moving van. He’ll be FINE. I KNOW this. And yet, I’ll still feel much better when he’s home safely.
  • I’ve been going through camera withdrawals. And today I was looking for (cheap) ways to entertain myself and TheKid while Jon was out of town. (And distract myself from harrowing visions of twisted, burning moving trucks)  Lo and behold! Thurdays are discount days at the zoo!  And. The zoo is in the same (huge) park with the rose garden. So tomorrow I’ll be packing up the nice camera and taking TheKid on a PHOTO EXTRAVAGANZA!!! (You have to say it in the big circus announcer type voice to get the full effect. Go ahead and try it.) I think I’ll even hand my old  DSLR  over to TheKid and see what he comes up with.
  • I tried to update my 2009 Book List but the formatting isn’t cooperating with me. Grrr. My apologies for the irritating wierd spacings. I will beat it into submission just as soon as I have nothing better to do.

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June 20, 2009

Yes as a matter of fact it IS tender

By rhonirenee

So I’m attempting to type on a laptop that is balanced precariously on my lap while propped up on pillows in bed. There’s a stack of unread magazines and books beside me and a husband wielding a dish towel outside the door if I attempt to veer from the pre-approved path between the bathroom and bed. He’s bringing me watermelon and cookies upon request and I get the impression that I’ll be allowed back up soon. Tomorrow perhaps. Thursday I had six vials of blood taken and picked up a prescription for an antiobiotic and a painkiller. And for the record, the painkiller seems to knock me for a loop. I’m getting ahead of myself though aren’t I?

For the past month or so I’ve not felt so great. Oh I haven’t felt horrible. But I’ve been run down some days, more tired than I should be. Then a spot under my left arm started becoming uncomfortably tender, then swollen, and finally painful and Wednesday Jon informed me after long…discussions…that I was going to the doctor. So Thursday we went. And the PA went through his laundry list of questions to cover diabetes and thyroid issues all the while kicked back, looking half asleep. And then I mentioned a history of auto-immune issues in my family. Okay actually my mother has lupus and her aunt did…I don’t know if that counts as a “history” but suddenly Mr. PA was a bit more interested in the proceedings. In the end he decided to remove half my blood to test for everything under the sun, then poked and prodded at the swollen spot until I left claw marks in the table and cried. And then had the nerve to say “Well it looks like we have a tender little lymph node there don’t we?”  I resisted the urge to kick him in the balls and reply “Well now it looks like we have a tender little groin there don’t we?”

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June 12, 2009

The good life

By rhonirenee

Today I packed a lounge chair, book and a swimsuit clad kid in the car and headed to the nearest beach like location. It’s in a state park, along a river but it’s water, sand (or finely ground gravel…whatever) and sun. We were content. About half an hour after arriving a singular rain cloud blotted the sun and dripped on us. Everyone in the area simply shrugged and kept playing and the poor little rain cloud moved on quickly in defeat.

It doesn’t take TheKid long to make new acquaintences so I spent most of our time kicked back in the chair with a good book, glancing up occassionally to make sure one his new rock hunting buddies hadn’t drowned him. Two and half hours later we left – me rejuvenated, TheKid happy but exhausted.

I don’t tell you this to brag. I tell you because today was a momentous step. For once I didn’t have a to-do list. There was no schedule, no goals. There was simply an afternoon stretching out before me to enjoy.  It’s very rare that I can set aside my lists. Even those times when I do sit and read, I almost always have a time table running through the back of my mind, a commentary of places we need to be and things that still need to be done.  Jon implores me often to RELAX ALREADY. So when the siren’s song of water & sun called to me, I gladly answered.  The carpet still needs to be vaccuumed, the computer room table (aka the catch-all) needs organizing, the living room needs dusting but I guess it can wait until tomorrow. Or the next day. (gulp) I might just renew my love affair with the water & sun a few more times this summer.

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June 8, 2009

Is this thing on…?

By rhonirenee

This used to be a forum to share amusing moments and conversations. But since Jon and I merged our families, I’m less and less inclined to share although I probably have much more material.  Before, there was only me and TheKid. The stories I shared were mine alone. Now (most) narratives don’t just belong to me. They belong to our blended family. And while Jon trusts my judgment in what is revealed and doesn’t mind me writing about him, his children squirm under a camera lens and shun the spotlight.  I toe that blurry line between what is okay to share and what it taboo for THEM. And even though I take care not to name the boys here, it’s still a peek into our otherwise private lives.

This used to be an outlet to work through frustrations and musings. Once upon a time I could vent here pretty openly. However much of my anonymity has been lost in the past year and now my spur of the moment, emotional tirades have direct implications on those around me. If I’m wrestling with an issue, chances are it’s just that – MY issue. Nine out of ten times it’s me being irrational or insecure or selfish but it takes some fuming and self talk to reach the point of rationality and calmness. The route to work through that thought process is never pretty and those close to me should not be publicly dragged through that griminess.

This used to be a place to share my photographs. Now I don’t take nearly as many pictures. I still take A LOT mind you. But I don’t spend nearly as much time in front of my computer. It sometimes takes me weeks to upload and sort shots to my drive. So while I’d love to start participating in several photo memes a week, I also know that it’s unlikely I will on a regular basis.

These aren’t laments. I rather like my life now so the lack of posting doesn’t weigh on me. I don’t adhere to all the blogging “rules”. I’m not here to promote the brand of “me” or gather followers or network.  On the other hand, I don’t plan to stop updating here. In fact I have a few posts waiting to be written and several photo shoots I want to do (again with that whole time issue…) I just might be more of a “couple of times a month” poster rather than a “couple of times a week”.

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